EFT – The importance of working with a skilled Therapist

Gary Craig - EFT Founder
Gary Craig – EFT Founder

People are often asking me, why they should visit a workshop or a therapist when they can read about the basic recipe and watch some DVDs.

 

I want to list the two most important reasons:

  • There are traumatic events that come up with such a great intensity, making it impossible and sometimes even dangerous for a person to deal with it on him/herself!
  • Often a certain technique of questioning/counselling is needed to find out the hidden aspects or the core issue.

Gary Craig, the founder of EFT, repeatedly stresses the importance of working with a skilled practitioner who goes beyond what we call “mechanical tapping” to really uncover core issues and hidden beliefs.

Besides another wonderful thing about a workshop is that you get to know new people, you’re not feeling alone with your problem any longer and even if some tears are running there is a lot of laughter and joy, too.

As a specialist I can help you through issues too traumatic and intensive to handle them yourself. Being a NLP Master, I use a lot of various techniques like rapport, re-framing or sleight of mouth and even trance (Milton Erickson) to ensure that your healing journey is as safe as possible. I support you in becoming aware of your beliefs and emotions and together we soften the intensity around them, with the help of EFT, till they are gone or changed. Especially during a one on one session there’s an undiscribable magic energetic heart/love connection between therapist and client that allows to work with intuition and go with the energy flow. Working together we can release all the self-sabotage patterns that kept you from enjoying a life of emotional freedom.

My next workshop “EFT-The Fundamentals” is on Saturday, May 30, 2009.

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Family Constellation Therapy

What’s a family constellation?

Bert Hellinger

Bert Hellinger

It is a group process that has the power to affect generations of suffering and unhappiness. Bert Hellinger, the founder of this work, observed that many of us unconsciously “take on” destructive family energy patterns of anxiety, depression, anger, guilt, aloneness, alcoholism and even illness as a way of “belonging” in our families. Bonded by a deep love, a child will often sacrifice his own best interests in a vain attempt to ease the suffering of a parent or other family mebers. Constellation work allows to break these energy patterns so we can live healthier, happier, more fulfilled lives.

How does it work?

The members of the group are chosen to represent actual family members and are positioned within the room. Unconscious loyalties are then brought to the surface. As new, healthy images of the family system emerge, genuine love and strength can begin to flow in a liberating way. The effects of this can be profound and life-changing.

Bert Hellinger about breast cancer:

“One very common dynamic I have seen with women having breast cancer, is that they are at war with their mother. Very often I do a very simple exercise. I tell them they should kneel in front of their mother and bow to the ground in respect for her. Many women can’t do that. There is such a strong resistence to honour their mother that it becomes apparent that they rather die than to honour their mother. Of course not every woman who has breast cancer has difficulties with her mother. But there are quite a few cases where I have seen this.”

Bert Hellinger about parents and children:

“When we look at our parents, then we see that behind them there are their parents and behind their parents there are other parents and so on through many generations. The same life energy flows through all of them until it reaches us. With regard to passing on life, they were alle the same. So, all the children through all these generations received the same life (energy). In this way parents are great and children are small. Parents give and children take. If we can honour our parents as what they are , we feel rich, our heart opens and we feel strength. If you meet depressed people you can always find that they reject one of their parents. Nobody can be at peace with himself or herself unless he or she is at peace with both his or her parents. When we look at our parents and see that life comes from very far, we can take life as it flows through them to us without any hesitation, then we can get free from any entanglement and heal our soul.”

The systemic solution of family constellation:

The hidden loyalty-dynamics are discovered and the energetic orders of love within the family are re-established. The energy of love can flow again!

EFT and Beliefs

The first time I ever heard of beliefs was in one of the workshops for the Master Certificate in Kinesiology. In the beginning I thought it’s only about the quotes, proverbs and sayings in our original family while growing up because our trainer wanted us to make a list of what our parents, grandparents and relatives taught us about our gender, education, work and success and highlight the most important for every topic.

My summary of the beliefs that influenced me most in my life  looked like this:
  • Success is only for men, women are supposed to stand behind them in the shade, shut up and do their household duties! 
  • Without having a doctor title / without visiting university man shouldn’t even have the opportunity to become rich or successful!
  • Only unpleasant, very hard and exhausting work will bring money and success! If you earn money too easily, you don’t deserve it!

My parents were so convincing that I didn’t even doubt that they could be wrong. Not as a teenager, not with 20, not with 30. And now I was asked why I would spend so much money on this education when I’m convinced that I can’t be successfully earning money or starting a business with it anyway, being only a woman without university degree. And I noticed that those beliefs continue living in the subconsciousness even if you try to forget them. I dare to say, they poison your life! So our group started to change the negative beliefs into positive affirmations and we balanced the energy system of the body-mind-spirit triangle to free ourselves from those limiting thoughts. And I became aware that our experiences we make every day form our thoughts and those thoughts become our deeds. And I became aware how important it is not to let ourselves down by bad experiences. Whenever I have one of those bad days on which none of my planed activities work out, I’m starting to think in bigger dimensions. I’m thinking of what worked out very well during this week. I’m grateful for the good and enjoyable things I experienced which perhaps were even more important than what happened on this one bad day.

And I’m TAPPING because EFT gets me back on track:

For example: Even if the computer expert didn’t help me with troubleshooting, although I bought this very expensive laptop, I deeply and completely love and accept myself. Even if I felt hurt by his abrupt behaviour, telling me that my problem is not important enough for him to do a deeper research and it would be a waste of time for him, I deeply and profoundly love and accept myself. Even if I felt not important enough for him as a client and I perhaps I wasn’t persistent enough, I deeply love and forgive myself. Even if I’m very angry and I will never buy any computer from him in my whole life, I know I’m a great person anyway.

There’s such a relief and all the anger is gone at once. I can start thinking and deciding clearly about the next step.

Tapping on your issues is like peeling an onion! Sometimes with tears!

Tapping on your issues is like peeling an onion! Sometimes with tears!

I can feel my personal power and self-esteem again.

With EFT everybody can find her/his personal freedom and joy of life so easily. I want to repeat David Craig’s invitation: Try it on everything!

And I want to give a very nice positive proverb as a gift to you that works very well for me: 

Success is doing what you like and make a living of it!

It’s all about energy

Inner Peace

Inner Peace

What’s energy? Where can we find it?

 

Famous Quantum physicists like Albert Einstein could prove that everything consists of energy.

Ø  We can feel energy in form of heat.

Ø  We can feel energy in form of vibrations.

Ø  We can hear energy in form of music.

Ø  We can see energy in form of lightening or sparks. 

But are we aware that we consist of energy and that we are able to store or exchange energy?

In psychology we are talking about energy patterns.

Ø  Collective energy patterns already exist before we are born in form of a collective in heritage from the generations that lived before us.

Ø  Family energy patterns that arise from adopting the beliefs, morals and codes of ethic of our parents without questioning them as little children.

Ø  Personal and individual energy patterns created on our own by making life experiences.

Those 3 energy patterns altogether are responsible for our picture of the world and our life. They are responsible for our belief system, our codes of value, honour and ethic.

Imagine how much energy there is be between people meeting and having a conversation. Every thought they are thinking is energy, every word they are talking.

As we heard already, thoughts can create the experiences you make in your life.

Henry Ford once said “If you believe you can or you can’t. You’re always right.”

That’s what in psychology is called self-fulfilling prophecy.

And words – they can hurt, they can heal, they can provoke, and they can agitate. And whatever is said can’t be made unsaid again.

So it’s easy to understand that energy is in motion all the time.

Therefore we always have a slight imbalance, an under or over energy in our body. That’s not bad because there’s a divine energy in everybody of us, the self- or inner-healing energy that does nothing else than balancing work all the time.

But now imagine a scale: on one side there is emotional and mental stress that’s ignored and suppressed and that causes such an imbalance in the system of body, mind and soul that the inner-healing energy gets weaker and weaker and can’t balance anymore.

That’s the point where severe illnesses are developed. And some of us go from doctor to doctor, from drug to drug and from surgery to surgery……. till life is over.

But some of us become aware of how inconsiderate they were treating their body, take responsibility, search ways of changing their lifestyle and get healthy again.

And that’s when my work begins. By counselling I try to help people recognizing the causes of their problems and finding their own solutions for solving them.

Then I can balance their energy system with one of my techniques like for example Reiki or EFT in order to strengthen their inner healing energies again and accompany them on their way of healing themselves.

 

The energy of the mind is the essence of life! (Aristoteles)

 

 

The holistic philosophy of Energy Medicine by Caroline Myss PH.D.

 

I am responsible for the creation of my health. I therefore participated, at some level, in the creation of my illness. I can participate in the healing of my illness by healing myself, which means simultaneously healing my emotional, psychological, physical and spiritual being.

 

 

 

Fairytales, Myths and Archetypes

“Fairy Tales are the purest and simplest expression of collective unconscious psychic processes. Therefore their value for the scientific investigation of the unconscious  exceeds that of all other material. They represent the archetypes in their simplest, barest and most concise  form. In myths, legends and fairytales we get at the basic patterns of the human psyche through an overlay of cultural material.” (V. Franz, 1996)

Let’s remember the experience of listening to a fairy tale as a child! Let’s find out why we were so enthralled by these tales! There is no interpretation, there’s more experimental role playing and discovering the missing parts of one’s unconsciousness, awareness of emotions while acting and gathering new experiences.

This workshop is undescribable fun and at the same time such an enrichment for the personal growth! Try it – you’ll love it!

Fairy Tales are more than true;

not because they tell us that dragons exist,

but because they tell us that dragons can be beaten

(G.K. Chesterton)

 

Mystic icy impressions

It once upon a time a magic bush .....

My Manitoba – My Farm

I came to Manitoba in October 2007 and found the most wonderful place to live. I’ve always been dreaming of a home surrounded by nature and visited by various wild animals and birds. When I wake up in the morning and look out of my window I still can’t believe what I see……

Now I’m right where I wanna be,

I’ve never felt so loved, so peaceful and so free!

God’s been so good to me!

(Keith Urban)

Sport photography & Riding competitions

Riding events are thrilling, gripping, exciting…. Man and horse are not only a team but a fusion – they become one! They know eachother, they trust eachother, they depend on eachother. But whether it’s a Rodeo, Show Jumping or Dressage event a good photographer should not only focus on the fast sportive motions. There are the quiet moments of composure and almost a kind of meditation before and between the contests which have their very special charm.

Riding is a partnership. The horse lends you his strength, speed and grace, which are greater then yours.
For your part you give him your guidance, intelligence and understanding which are greater then his.
Together you can achieve a richness that neither alone can.

Lucy Rees