Family Constellation Therapy

What’s a family constellation?

Bert Hellinger

Bert Hellinger

It is a group process that has the power to affect generations of suffering and unhappiness. Bert Hellinger, the founder of this work, observed that many of us unconsciously “take on” destructive family energy patterns of anxiety, depression, anger, guilt, aloneness, alcoholism and even illness as a way of “belonging” in our families. Bonded by a deep love, a child will often sacrifice his own best interests in a vain attempt to ease the suffering of a parent or other family mebers. Constellation work allows to break these energy patterns so we can live healthier, happier, more fulfilled lives.

How does it work?

The members of the group are chosen to represent actual family members and are positioned within the room. Unconscious loyalties are then brought to the surface. As new, healthy images of the family system emerge, genuine love and strength can begin to flow in a liberating way. The effects of this can be profound and life-changing.

Bert Hellinger about breast cancer:

“One very common dynamic I have seen with women having breast cancer, is that they are at war with their mother. Very often I do a very simple exercise. I tell them they should kneel in front of their mother and bow to the ground in respect for her. Many women can’t do that. There is such a strong resistence to honour their mother that it becomes apparent that they rather die than to honour their mother. Of course not every woman who has breast cancer has difficulties with her mother. But there are quite a few cases where I have seen this.”

Bert Hellinger about parents and children:

“When we look at our parents, then we see that behind them there are their parents and behind their parents there are other parents and so on through many generations. The same life energy flows through all of them until it reaches us. With regard to passing on life, they were alle the same. So, all the children through all these generations received the same life (energy). In this way parents are great and children are small. Parents give and children take. If we can honour our parents as what they are , we feel rich, our heart opens and we feel strength. If you meet depressed people you can always find that they reject one of their parents. Nobody can be at peace with himself or herself unless he or she is at peace with both his or her parents. When we look at our parents and see that life comes from very far, we can take life as it flows through them to us without any hesitation, then we can get free from any entanglement and heal our soul.”

The systemic solution of family constellation:

The hidden loyalty-dynamics are discovered and the energetic orders of love within the family are re-established. The energy of love can flow again!


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