A New Beginning….

What does New Year’s Eve mean to you? Some people say “Nothing, I go to sleep at 10 like always.” Some people celebrate like crazy and have a hangover for the next two days.

For me New Year’s Eve is the most spiritual and magical day of the whole year. Of course there are a lot of rituals of letting go, of change, of farewell and of new beginnings that can be done during the year and should be done whenever they’re necessary for one’s life, but I just can’t describe with words those mixed feelings of fascination, excitement and melancholy I always have especially on the 31st of December. And all of the rituals I just described go perfect with this day in this period of time that in Chinese Medicine symbolizes water, winter, essence of life, inward-looking, fear of new challenges, saying “farewell” to the old that’s already past and saying “welcome” to the new that will be the future.

New Year’s Eve is a transition, like going through a gate, like crossing a bridge, like opening an unknown door. …

It’s now time to reflect on the year that is drawing to a close.

It’s now time for purification:

1. Purify yourself with a scrub and a shower or a bath
2. Purify your home with some smudging

Think about the people who matters most to you! Think about your greatest accomplishments and honor yourself! Think about the most challenging difficulties and the lessons you learned! Think about the limits of the old year and the opportunities that will come with the new one.

Forgive yourself and forgive others and open up your heart in love!

Dance, sing and celebrate Life! And welcome the New Year warmly, like a baby that’s just born into this world!

Look into the night sky with its numerous sparkling stars and feel the silver energy cords that flow from your crown chakra to the moon and from your root chakra into the earth. Close your eyes, take a deep breath and feel your connection to the universe and just BE!

I wish you all the Best for 2011! I wish you health, love and joy! Namaste!

Prosit Neujahr! Cheers! Happy New Year 2011 !!!

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Couples Therapy

Truly loving another means letting go of all expectations. It means full acceptance, even celebration of another's personhood.

Every model of counselling has a different view on couples therapy and there’s some truth in each kind of therapy of course:

Behavioural therapist Stuart states:

Successful marriages can be differential from unsuccessful ones by the frequency and range of reciprocal positive reinforcements the partners exchange.

What does that mean? There is a woman who needs to talk and share all her thoughts and emotions and therefore tries to call her partner all the time. And there is a man who doesn’t like talking very much and he hates sharing emotions. So his reaction to her calls is withdrawal and the more she calls the more he isolates from her and ignores her.

All Stuart wants to express with his statement can be put into one question:

How can both partners achieve the happy medium?

The necessary part that can’t be avoided is CONVERSATION and CONFLICT MANAGEMENT. And the solution is a CONTRACT  between the partners saying for example: She promises not to call that often anymore and he promises to sit together with her to talk about the things that are on her heart and mind every day in the evening.

One exercise to develop a better understanding between the partners is called “the request list”:  There are two columns, one for the woman and one for the man. On one side the woman writes what she requests from her partner like “Please share your emotions and thoughts with me” and on the other side the man writes down his requests like “Please respect it when I need some time on my own.” This is a nice way to get to know each other and even after lots of years there’s often an “AHA-effect” on both sides.

As a counsellor I hear a lot of excuses why a relationship doesn’t work out. The most famous one is “We are too different in a lot of ways! (sexual, multi cultural, religious and many more). I don’t agree because then there wouldn’t be couples who are married happily with all those differences for 25 years and suddenly start thinking about divorce; they would have recognized those differences earlier and either dealt or coped with them or split up after a shorter period of time.

I agree with the psychologist Howard Markman who stated:

The cause for marital distress are not so much the differences between people that matter, but rather how those differences are handled. And that is again HOW COUPLES LEARN TO COMMUNICATE AND MANAGE CONFLICT!

It is through the interactive process of language (not merely words, but gestures, facial expressions, vocal inflections and silences) that people connect and construct their shared views of reality.

Assumptions and mind reading can definitely be avoided by sharing thoughts and emotions in a good conversation!

So please COMMUNICATE!!!!