I’m a passionate photographer and I can see the unique beauty of each person in his/her face.
I agree with John O’Donohue who says “The human face carries mystery and is the exposure point of the mystery of the individual life. It is where the private, inner world of a person protrudes into the anonymous world. While the rest of the body is covered, the face is naked. The vulnerability of this nakedness issues a profound invitation for understanding and passion. The human face is a meeting place of two unknowns: the infinity of the outer world and the unchartered, inner world to which each individual alone has access. This is the night world that lies behind the brightness of the visage. The smile on a face is a surprise or illumination. when the smile crosses the face, it is as if the inner night of this hidden world brightens suddenly…..”
And the picture shows this mystery, beauty, brightness….. it shows the vulnerability… it shows a glimpse of a person’s own secret holy world. I prefer doing portraits to groups. Painting artists admit that it is exceptionally difficult to render the human face, especially the eyes and the mouth. A photo can show the truth in a glimpse of releasing the shutter of the camera. Whatever is shown on the picture cannot be made undone anymore…. We can read about cultures who wouldn’t let a photographer take a picture because they feel that they would lose a part of their soul. The eyes are said to be the windows of the soul. Many people try to avoid eye contact because they were hurt in the past – many people don’t like photos because they don’t want to look at themselves because they don’t like themselves.
That’s where Inner Child Work starts…..
“I don’t like myself on photos.” my friend said. “You don’t like yourself?” I reflected. “Oh, yes I do, but with photos it’s different…” she answered. “Why can’t you be alone? Do you like your own company?” I asked again. “Hmmmm, I know where you’re going now. You think, as I don’t want to be with myself and I don’t like to look at the photos in reality I’m not liking myself.” she concluded. “What’s going on inside of you, emotionally, when you look at a photo from your childhood?” I’m asking her. “I can’t do this. I’m getting sad and start crying. Then I hide it.” she answered. “What would happen if you would let yourself cry as long as you can and then look at the picture again? Do you want to try this for a homework and tell me next time what you found out? Even if it’s the most difficult thing to do, even if you would have to experience some emotional pain and suffering in your heart?” I asked her to write down what she was experiencing. “I saw a sad child, who was beaten a lot, punished, not loved at all. I experienced again how it felt to do every afford to be loved even if it meant to disown oneself…” I put a chair in front of her. “Can you see this sad little girl, sitting in this chair?” I asked “What is she wearing? How’s she sitting there? Can her little feet touch the ground? Is she holding on to the chair? Does she look at you, through you or turning away her head? Does she cry, look sad, try to smile at you? Can you sense something special like a special smell, taste? Are you feeling cold, warm? Is it getting darker or brighter around the both of you? What do you want to tell your Inner Child” My friend is in a kind of trance. She answers to my questions and then she starts to speak while she is shaking and crying; while I am starting to tap EFT to take away some of the stress. “I’m so sorry that you had to suffer so much …. and in addition to all that pain I left you alone …. I didn’t take responsibility for you … I wanted to run away from you …. I’m so sorry …. so sorry….” I’m putting my hands on her shoulders. “Can you feel your Inner Divine Guardian and Power? Can you take the little girl on your lap and hug her and stay with her like this for a moment? …. Tell me what you feel?” My friend is laughing and crying “I feel so peaceful once of a sudden and soooo fullllll of LOVE. I’ve never ever felt like that before… everything seems to be so right and good and true…” We both take a deep breath. “Can you feel how your love melts your hearts together? What would you like to give her as a gift? What is she giving to you?” My friend smiles “I gave her a daisy. She always love them and I still do. She gave me a butterfly to free myself from the burden I was carrying with me for such a long time. Thank you Monika, that was awesome. That was worth it all….” On our next shopping trip I took some photos. When she looked at them, she said: “Wow, I guess I didn’t know that I look that good. Shouldn’t be that hard to find a good man…” and we both laughed and laughed…..
When I started my spiritual journey my Reiki Master did a lot of Inner Child Work. Later on my instructor for Kinesiology, Systems Constellation, NLP and Trance Therapy did a lot of Guided Imagery and Trances with our group on healing our Inner Child and our relationship to our parents. And I agree with my friend it’s definitely worth it! It brings Happiness, Fulfillment, Contentment and Joy to Life!