What are energy vampires?
- PEOPLE who have negative (f.e. jealous) thoughts or emotions (f.e. envy) about you, not playing with open cards but using criticism behind your back.
- SITUATIONS like socials or parties in which you don’t feel welcome or misplaced.
- PLACES like restaurants, shopping malls or campgrounds.
- ENVIRONMENT like polluted cities with high buildings that have thick walls and air-conditioning running all day long and tarred streets to prevent the energy exchange with nature.
What are the signs of being their victim?
A chronic tiredness (fatigue) and a feeling of being drained out and not knowing how to get back strength anymore.
What can you do to protect yourself?
Well, you can easily avoid SITUATIONS by not going to the certain event. You can reduce energy robbery at places by planning to go there less often (make a shopping list and buy your stuff once every two weeks instead of going to the grocery store every second day).
PLACES: Camping may be a good thing for a weekend, but why are so many people coming back from Arizona or Texas in spring after 3 months sunshine and tell me that they don’t feel refreshed and healthy at all. When I ask them what they did, they tell me they were on the campground all the time (surrounded by other campers and people), they watched TV (electronic energy sucker) or played games with their neighbours (never alone) or drank a lot (energy sucker alcohol). Well, how about turning the TV off and going for a walk ALONE; how about reading a good book instead of drinking; how about a good conversation with your neighbours (about a certain topic) instead of playing games.
ENVIRONMENT: Now we get to the polluted cities. If you can’t escape the city for untill weekend you have to create a healthy environment at home. Read about Feng Shui or trust your intuition on colours to be used in your home for walls, furniture and decoration. Buy an indoor fountain and do an “energy flow meditation” every day when you come home from work. Have a plant in every room to clean the air. Smudge your rooms from negative energy as often as possible. Install your own ritual of quieting your mind and stick to it (guided relaxation, meditation, dance, yoga etc.)
To avoid energy sucking PEOPLE you would have to become a recluse and that’s not healthy either. But there are rituals to protect yourself, especially when you’re standing in a queue and feel the breath of the person (STRANGERS) behind you in your neck by drawing the Tibetan eight between the both of you or by stepping into the golden egg and imaging that the other person’s negative energy reflect back to him/her and that you’re safe and protected. I like using my Reiki Master Symbol and the Pentagram. If the energy suckers are so-called “FRIENDS” you sometimes have to get rid off them because then they’re more inconvenient acquaintances than real friends at all and it’s your right to be surrounded by positive and loving people. Not so easy, I know. If the energy vampires are in your FAMILY you have to find ways to say “NO” to expectations you can’t fulfill without feeling guilty. You have to learn that your most important obligation and responsibility is the one to care for yourself. If you’re drained out and not healthy how should you care for others. Often in counselling sessions it turns out that people have the unhealthy belief that they have to sacrifice to others, especially to their parents. But it is just a belief. Bert Hellinger (Systemic Constellation Therapy) says that parents give and children take and that children are in no way obliged to sacrifice themselves and get sick. I had a client in Germany who neglected her own child because of caring for her mother day and night. Suddenly she became very sick and was in hospital for a long time. During this time her mother recovered and suddenly did things she had said she wouldn’t have been capable all the time. She even got to know her grandchild and took care of her till her daughter was released from hospital. The whole situation changed and they have a healthy and happy relationship now. If your CO-WORKERS are energy vampires the danger of being drained exists for a certain time of the day. Protect yourself with a mother of pearl shell; imagine you’re safe like a pearl. After getting out of the office do a cleansing meditation in your mind or close your eyes and go through the 12 DNA colours (that can also be done in the bus, taxi, train etc. – not in the car of course). After coming home take a bath with Himalayan Salt or a shower with a salt rub to wash off those negative energies. When I’m getting out of work I’m going for a walk, connecting with nature, breathing in the healing energy of the universe through my crown chakra, sending it through my body and breathing out the negative energy into the earth through my foot chakras where it is converted into good energy again and released into the universe (endless cycle).
If you like to have further information about protecting yourself or learn techniques like the 12 colours of DNA healing, give me a call @ 204-636-7787. The Energy Healing Centre is open 7 days a week from 2pm to 9pm. For directions click on “Contact us”.
In energy healing circles the sharing of energies referred to as “cording”. As soon as you start a relationship or meet a person in your life cording occurs. Babies are born with a cord attaching them to their mothers which is natural but there comes the time for a mother to cut this cord in order for her child to make her own experiences. If the mother resists, the child will eventually do it and that’s only appropriate. So, why is it so hard for us especially when we’re adults????
The world is full of unhealthy relationships and psychic vampires to suck up our energy. If we allow other people to take our healthy energy away we will become very sick, not only mentally but also physically in the end. Ending a relationship ranks high up in the toughest situations in our lives. It doesn’t matter if you were the person who finally had the courage to walk away or if someone else left you – a loss is felt either way!
In my past I have chosen to end a number of unhealthy relationships which I had found myseluf in and I know it’s hard to stay strong, but it’s worth to take action and break free.
Breakups in toxic relationships can be especially messy, when the other person can’t accept your “NO”! So it is very necessary for you to be firm and resilient when pulling the plug. Let go as fast as possible and move on! You’re only responsible for yourself! Don’t let others plant a seed of guilt inside of you! Stay strong and there will be freedom, peace and happiness!!! There are a lot of people with whom you can have a wonderful healthy and healing relationship, where giving and taking is balanced and where there’s no insult, intimadation, tactlessness, power-games or trying to change you….
There are friends and people who respect you for WHO YOU ARE and who are celebrating your successes with you instead of jealously putting their poison in every achievement you make.
Self-Defense is anything we think or do to increase our physical, mental and emotional safety. Self-Defense is thinking and acting assertively. Self-Defense is our birth right. It is our right to have safe, loving and intimate relationships with partners and friends, free of fear, intimidation, threats and abuse (Abuse can happen with WORDS and bad manners or tactlessness!!!). It is our responsibility to end unhealthy relationships if we can and to have the courage to seek help if we can’t do it on our own!
Sometimes life gives you a broad hint about what you have to do next or what you have to focus on in your next Post or Workshop.
At the moment I’m meeting a lot of very unhappy people… People who don’t like themselves, who feel lonely and unloved all the time; people who try to distract themselves all the time and are addicted to video games, Facebook or TV; people who try to take care and give advice to others but are completely split off themselves and neither show responsibility for their own life nor even want to think about their own situation.
Wouldn’t it be worth to work on yourself and make a little personal change in your life even if it’s painful, as you have to deal with the past, to be rewarded with happiness, success, love, peacefulness, centeredness, contentment, abundance of possibilities….etc.?”
So this metaphor is especially for those of you who love their animal more than themselves and how this beautiful part of creation can help you heal your Inner Child.
Her name is “Cindy”. My husband gave her another name and called her “f… broken fuel pump” because we met her when our car broke down in Portage La Prairie.
She is a three-coloured cat, absolutely beautiful and unique – like ME and YOU.
Suddenly she was sitting on the line in the middle of the highway. I heard cars coming, jumped out of our truck and ran to her as fast as I could. Usually cats then run away when you approach them that fast and this was my first idea to get her away from the dangerous road. But she stayed and looked at me. I grabbed her, run back to the truck and held her on my lap and took a closer look at her.
She was dirty, her fur was lustreless and full of fleas, her ears black inside because of all the mites – just like a neglected Inner Child.
She didn’t purr. It seemed that she surrendered her life to me because she didn’t want to suffer anymore – just like an Inner Child longing to be healed so badly.
We waited for the towing truck, took her home and took her to the Vet next day. There she was not calm anymore; she behaved like a tiger in the jungle and didn’t want to be touched by others because of the fear of being hurt again – just like the injured Inner Child.
That’s a while ago now and Cindy has become a personality; she knows what she wants, she’s proud, she’s independent, she takes responsibility for herself, she reaches out for love and help when she needs it, she expresses her moods and she doesn’t care at all what other humans or cats may think about her, she’s authentic, she’s trusting, she enjoys life with all the dangers and adventures, she makes experiences and learns from them, she likes company and then she loves to be alone again – just like a healed and loved Inner Child – just like ME! What about YOU?
She has just climbed on my chest while I’m writing this post. She’s purring, very loud! We’re exchanging our love through our hearts, I touch her fur and she looks at me. Love is pouring out of her eyes…
Memories come up… about my childhood…. I remember how I always wanted to have a cat when I was a little girl. I remember that I could pet cats forever and forget the time about it. I remember how I was hiding a cat in my bedroom and spoiling her with cream and how my mom found out, throwing the cat out of the door and slapping my face. I remember how I couldn’t understand and cried for hours, longing for this unconditional love of a cat, longing for touching this soft fur and listen to the calming sound of purring…
I can see myself lying on the bed and crying and I can feel this pain again and I’m getting sad… My eyes fill with tears and I take my little Inner Child in my arms and say: “Don’t be sad anymore. I love you and I take care of you. Can you see Cindy? She’s our cat! Nobody can take her away from us. Let’s spoil her with our love and let us be spoiled by her love! Isn’t life wonderful?”
And my Inner Child is smiling, snuggling to my chest and buries her little finger in Cindy’s fur. Cindy is even purring louder… Now she’s getting the four-handed petting love…