Feeling like a woman……..

It’s in the reach of my armsThe span of my hips,The stride of my step,The curl of my lips.I’m a womanPhenomenally.Phenomenal woman,That’s me.

MAYA ANGELOU, Phenomenal Woman

What’s the trick to being feminine, attractive, desirable and sexy?

We’re living in a world where women can join the army, get as high in business hierarchy like their male colleagues and practice all the sports that were once reserved for men.

Many women are taking away or hiding their femininity. Especially the area I immigrated represents the tough women, who are working hard on the farm, wearing practical clothes and keeping their hair short. Sometimes it irritates me when I’m walking behind a bunch of people and I wouldn’t know which of them are women and which of them are man….

I’m simply not used to that. I grew up with an enthusiasm to dress to impress. My parents used to love dressing up, my school mates did, later on my friends and my husbands. In Germany, Italy and France men are always trying to show their good trained bodies in a fine suit and women  are always trying to show their feminine qualities.

What are the feminine qualities??? What do men really like about women? What makes women desirable for men?

Confidence: Men like women who are confident. A confident woman is certain of who she is on the inside. She doesn’t need anyone to feed her compliments or buy her things in order to feel good about herself. Men like women who even feel sexy and stunning in their pyjamas with their hair messed up. They admire women who are not immediately in tears when they’re not called 5 times a day. Men love women who feel attractive inside and out because this energy makes them sexy and irresistible.

Individuality: Men like women who have their own interests and live their own independent lives. They hate women who are clingy and can’t think for themselves. They like women who have their own values and stand by them instead of compromising themselves all the time just to fit in or be liked.

Femininity: Men like women who are feminine, sexy, warm and loving. Living their feminine qualities and getting in touch with their feminine energies that’s what makes women powerful and successful in a very special way.

The goal for men and women is to complement each other. This means both genders are still themselves but their unique qualities together make both of them shine.

Namaste my friends!

Feeling confident and sexy…

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

It’s in the reach of my armsThe span of my hips,The stride of my step,The curl of my lips.I’m a womanPhenomenally.Phenomenal woman,That’s me.

MAYA ANGELOU, Phenomenal Woman

Some Laws & Secrets for a Happy and Healthy Life

1. Find out about your personal VALUES that can’t be overthrown by anybody!

My most important values are Honesty, Self-Responsibility, Love and Respect.

2. Every Second you’re creating your own life!

The way I was thinking, feeling and acting in the past created my life in the past. If I didn’t have the strength and self-confidence at that time compared with my capabilities today I couldn’t have done it better and I have to fully accept and love the person I have been with all her weaknesses and mistakes. I’m still not perfect and never will be but if I know that I’m giving my best all the time and stay open for further life-long learning I am able to completely and unconditionally love, accept and forgive myself all the time and this results in INNER PEACE.

3. You have the choice!

Every second I’m living on this planet I have the choice to make a new decision, to enlarge my picture of the world, to discard an old belief or change my thoughts, my feelings or behaviour (actions).

4. You can’t change anybody but yourself!

Many women are choosing their partners and tell their friends what they’re going to change about them when they’re married. That can’t and never will work. My advice is: check your partner out before the wedding day and if there are too many things you have to shut your eyes to then better let go and continue searching for Mr. Right. You have to fully accept and love the (wo-)man you’re together with like yourself for who (s)he/you are!

I can proudly say that I have the perfect partnership. We’re both are at peace with our SELF and we have great respect and honour for one another. We’re both individuals with endless room to grow personally and we’re enjoying growing together within our partnership in every moment of life.

4. Your ALONE are RESPONSIBLE for your HEALTH!

Of course do doctors make a sense! But to call them “Gods dressed in white” is a pure exaggeration. They’re human beings and they often haven’t chosen their profession out of selfless reasons or just to help people in need. One doctor said to me “This is not the profession I dreamt of but I can definitely earn a lot of money to support my family and have the luxury I always wanted to enjoy. I’m not really caring about my patients. If they have a certain disease I know what’s the best drug and they’re leaving my office again and are happy.” Is this only an exemption to the rule??? I don’t know! We all have common sense, intuition and an INNER HEALING CAPACITY. I simply don’t believe and accept everything my doctors tell me. It’s my right and duty to make my own decision about my health. If I don’t like what I’m told to do I’m doing what I think is best for me. The secret is to know my body and how it reacts, to be aware of physical changes very quickly and react immediately. If you don’t want to end up having a body where half the organs are missing because surgery is such an easy solution you have to open up to the Spiritual and Divine Endless Possibilities of Healing Yourself!

Energy Medicine teaches that you should never give a name to a disease because then you give power to it. People say “I have cancer.” but when asked for the name of their guardian angel they don’t even know the gender. Energy Medicine teaches that there’s power in words. I get goosebumps when I hear people say “I support cancer.” I’m always asking “So you want more cancer in this world?”. Energy Medicine says that every disease is an interruption of our Energy Flow and starts in the energy field before manifesting as a physical disease.

5. Have Fun doing whatever makes you happy no matter what OTHERS are thinking!

Although being “white” I’m coming from a very different cultural background and I have been raised in a very different way. Women in Germany are very independent and I would guess that there are more single women between 20 and 30 just in the city of Munich than in the whole Province of Manitoba. Here it’s about getting married as soon as possible after graduating and establishing a family. Over the ocean it’s about individuality, independence and enjoying life. This may sound egoistic but over there women marry later after having some years of discovering who they are and developing their own identity. Many women here in Manitoba discover this void they don’t know how to fill after their children leave the house. Some are developing depressions during their marriage because they have neglected their own personality all through their life. But it’s never too late. As I said earlier you have the choice. There are Self-Growth Workshops that can help you find out who you are, what purpose you’re living for and how to live a happy fulfilled life. Don’t become a slave of society or the out-of- date beliefs you were growing up with. If you like going out dancing alone, do it! If you like sex, live it! If you feel well as a nudist, look for people with the same interests. There is nothing in life that’s forbidden, bad or negative as long as it doesn’t harm somebody else!

6. Count your Blessings every day!

If you can find a minute in the morning after waking up to think about all the things that are good in your life, you have the perfect preparation and positive attitude for your day! Then little problems can’t kick you out of balance anymore and big problems lose a lot of their power. The first thing that always comes to my mind in the morning and gets all my gratefulness is my health. Then I’m looking at my happy marriage and at the place I’m living. After that I’m noticing how much I could help people already with my Intuitive Energy Healing abilities and so on…. If you really think about it you can find numerous things that were and are good in your life!

7. Practice to be a peaceful warrior!

A peaceful warrior is somebody who’s fighting against injustice and for the big values in life like Honesty, Love, Peace, Fairness etc. A warrior is  in service of people who need to develop self-confidence and a strong personality and helps them becoming peaceful warriors themselves. A peaceful warrior is free of judgments and assumptions, can give love unconditionally and completely accept others with their own picture/map of the world. A peaceful warrior never stops learning and can integrate new pieces to his/her self when interacting with people or building new relationships. A peaceful warrior is like the “bamboo in the wind” – bending to the side when attacked in order to never let the hostile energy hit her/him personally. The enemy gets exhausted soon and then will develop a readiness to learn, change and grow because she/he discovers that the old pattern is not working any more. By not being hit and hurt the peaceful warrior can continue his/her path of fighting for and teaching love and honesty in this world because he/she can keep the strength and power that would be given away by attacking or fighting against somebody.

8. Be honest and acknowledge what is!

It must not always be a conscious thing but many people are neither honest to themselves nor to others a great deal of the time. In a partnership not sharing thoughts and emotions can end up in a lie. Trying to forget trauma can result in physical disease. In contrary acknowledging what happened and expressing it is very healing. Communication is a much underestimated factor in our life. Many people coming to my workshops have to learn what it means to listen actively and to communicate their own emotions, thoughts and picture of the world without attacking others or becoming the victim. They have to stop this continuously mind reading and their assumption that they know their partners good enough to predict any of their reactions. I am told by my clients again and again that a relationship means endless work and they won’t believe when I tell them that I don’t think so. Since I know my husband we have gotten rid off this terrible object that’s distracting mankind all the time – the TV. I hate being invited to a home where the television is running in the background and people stop talking because they have to check what’s going on. For me TV is a partnership, friendship and communication killer when not handled right. As children are just put in front of it to get them out of the way almost nobody learns how to handle a TV any more. My husband and me are talking and we can still do this for hours although we’re together now for 12 years. We both have many interests and sharing our emotions and thoughts is very exciting and thrilling for us. There’s no forbidden topic, there are no limits of mind. Through this interacting and exchange of thoughts and emotions there is no work to be done on our relationship. Through honesty there’s endless trust and through loving each other as the unique personalities we are personal growth and individual development is possible. This makes us an unbeatable team for the challenges of life.

There would be more pages and posts to write about this topic. This is only a bit of an idea how you can live a more fulfilled, happy and healthy life! Please don’t say “This would never work for me!” or “I can’t do this!”! Don’t limit your life! Just try to see the Palace of Possibilities! Of course first of all it’s a lot of work to get there (I can tell from my own experience) but when you finally have arrived at a certain level everything becomes easier and much more balanced.

When I started my spiritual self-growth path I would never have thought that one day I would be running across a carpet of glowing coals with my big goal in mind. Then the day came…. My trainers put on a huge pile of wood and we continued our preparations for the run (meditation, meridian tapping, positive goal setting etc.). After the pile burnt down, my trainers raked the coals to a huge carpet. Our group stared at it with a bit of disbelief and doubt. “Well,” the trainer said “you’re prepared to run for your goal in life. Concentrate on the wonderful feeling you had when we pretended to have reached it already. Then express the positive statement again, have a vision of how it is over there at the end of the carpet when you have achieved what you were longing for and run!” ….and I ran…. And when I arrived at the other side I started crying because I had this knowledge that there won’t be a mountain too high or a valley too deep anymore and that I’m only given the challenges I can handle.

Namaste, my dear friends! Love, Peace and Joy!

Monika

The peaceful warrior!

Some Laws & Secrets for a Happy and Healthy Life

1. Find out about your personal VALUES that can’t be overthrown by anybody!

My most important values are Honesty, Self-Responsibility, Love and Respect.

2. Every Second you’re creating your own life!

The way I was thinking, feeling and acting in the past created my life in the past. If I didn’t have the strength and self-confidence at that time compared with my capabilities today I couldn’t have done it better and I have to fully accept and love the person I have been with all her weaknesses and mistakes. I’m still not perfect and never will be but if I know that I’m giving my best all the time and stay open for further life-long learning I am able to completely and unconditionally love, accept and forgive myself all the time and this results in INNER PEACE.

3. You have the choice!

Every second I’m living on this planet I have the choice to make a new decision, to enlarge my picture of the world, to discard an old belief or change my thoughts, my feelings or behaviour (actions).

4. You can’t change anybody than yourself!

Many women are picking their partners and tell their friends what they’re going to change about them when they’re married. That won’t work. My advice is: check your partner out before the wedding day and if there are too many things you have to shut your eyes to then better go on searching. You have to fully accept and love the (wo-)man you’re together with like yourself for who (s)he/you are!

I can proudly say that I have the perfect partnership. We’re both at peace with our SELF and we have great respect and honour for one another. We’re both individuals with endless room to grow personally and we’re enjoying growing together with every moment of life.

4. Your ALONE are RESPONSIBLE for your HEALTH!

Of course do doctors make a sense! But to call them “Gods dressed in white” is a pure exaggeration. They’re human beings and they often haven’t chosen their profession out of selfless reasons or just to help people in need. One doctor said to me “This is not the profession I dreamt of but I can definitely earn a lot of money to support my family and have the luxury I always wanted to enjoy. I’m not really caring about my patients. I they have a certain disease I know what’s the best drug and they’re leaving my office and are happy.” Is this only an exemption of the rule??? I don’t know! We all have common sense, intuition and an INNER HEALING CAPACITY. I don’t believe and accept everything my doctors tell me. It’s my right and duty to make my own decision about my health. If I don’t like what I’m told to do I’m doing what I think is best for me. The secret is to know my body and how it reacts, to be aware of physical changes very quickly and react immediately. If you don’t want to end up having a body where half the organs are missing because surgery is such an easy solution you have to open up to the Spiritual and Divine Endless Possibilities of Healing Yourself!

5. Have Fun doing whatever makes you happy no matter what OTHERS are thinking!

Although being “white” I’m coming from a very different cultural background and I have been raised in a very different way. Women in Germany are very independent and I would guess that there are more single women between 20 and 30 just in the city of Munich than in the whole Province of Manitoba. Here it’s about getting married as soon as possible after graduating and establishing a family. Over the ocean it’s about individuality, independence and enjoying life. This may sound egoistic but over there women marry later after having some years of discovering who they are and developing their own identity. Many women here in Manitoba discover this void they don’t know how to fill after their children leave the house. Some are developing depressions during their marriage because they have neglected their own personality all through their life. But it’s never too late. As I said earlier you have the choice. There are Self-Growth Workshops that can help you find out who you are, what purpose you’re living for and how to live a happy fulfilled life. Don’t become a slave of society or the out of date beliefs you were growing up with. If you like going dancing alone, do it! If you like sex, live it! If you feel well as a nudist, look for people with the same interests. There is nothing in life that’s forbidden, bad or negative as long as it doesn’t harm anyone else!

6. Count your Blessings every day!

If you can find a minute in the morning after waking up to think about all the things that are good in your life, you have the perfect preparation and positive attitude for your day! Then little problems can’t kick you out of balance any more and big problems lose a lot of their power. The first thing that always comes to my mind in the morning and gets all my gratefulness is my health. Then I’m looking at my happy marriage and at the place I’m living. After that I’m noticing how much I could help people already with my Intuitive Energy Healing abilities and so on…. If you really think about it you can find numerous things that were and are good in your life!

7. Practice to be a peaceful warrior!

A warrior is somebody who’s fighting against injustice and for the big values in life like Honesty, Love, Peace, Fairness etc. A warrior is  in service for people who need to develop self-confidence and a strong personality and helps them becoming peaceful warriors themselves. A peaceful warrior is free of judgement and assumptions, can give love unconditionally and completely accept others with their own picture/map of the world. A peaceful warrior never stops learning and can adapt new pieces of self when interacting with people or building new relationships. A peaceful warrior is like the “bamboo in the wind” – bending to the side when attacked in order to never let the hostile energy  hit her/him personally.